We’ve probably all heard the saying that relationships are work, but isn’t sex supposed to just be fun? Or is sex a serious thing that we need to work at? Is sex work or play?

On the one hand, we have handjobs and blowjobs which sound like work, but we also have sex toys which suggests that sex is play.

When you get down to it, sex is like the rest of relationships—it takes some effort to have a good time. This is especially true when it’s repeated sex with a romantic partner—hook-ups often involve less effort which probably goes a long way towards explaining why they are too often not as satisfying as one or both people would hope. To make those one-timers (or first-timers) more interesting requires a lot of clear communication and negotiation so both partners are getting their needs met, since you don’t have the advantage of history to know what this person likes sexually.

This is information is referenced from:

Playtime